[ISTP] ISTP dating an INTP?
INTP types, as well as ISTP types find it difficult to develop who I'm pretty sure is an ISTP, so I've thought a lot about the relationship between. Preferably the male is ISTP and the female INTP but it doesn't have to be that way , any info is fine:) I made an identical post on r/INTP also. INTP & ISTP Types in Relationships. In some respects, INTPs and ISTPs use of Extraverted Feeling (Fe) gives them a leg . INTJ Relationships & Compatibility.
Generally optimistic and fun to be with Practical and realistic, they handle daily concerns Are not threatened by conflict or criticism Able to leave a relationship with relative ease once it is over Able to administer punishment, although they're not interested in doing so Likely to respect other's needs for space and privacy ISTP Weaknesses Living entirely in the present, they have difficulty with long-term commitments Not naturally good at expressing feelings and emotions Not tuned in to what others are feeling, they may be insensitive at times Tendency to be overly private and hold back part of themselves Need a lot of personal space, which they don't like to have invaded They thrive on action and excitement, and may stir things up to create it ISTPs as Lovers "To love means to open ourselves to the negative as well as the positive - to grief, sorrow, and disappointment as well as to joy, fulfillment, and an intensity of consciousness we did not know was possible before.
Their strong Thinking preference makes them seem rather aloof and "hard to get". Their Sensing and Perceiving preferences make them sensual, earthy individuals.
These attributes frequently make them attractive to the opposite sex. ISTPs live entirely in the current moment, which makes them especially interested in new sensations and experiences. They strongly dislike routine and strict schedules, and resist being controlled by others. They are fiercely independent and need their own space within a relationship. When involved in relationships which provide for their basic needs and which present them with new experiences, the ISTP will be happy to do what's necessary to keep the relationship alive and well.
If a relationship becomes boring or oppressive to the ISTP, they will try to fix it, or move on. ISTPs take their commitments on a day-by-day basis. Even if they say "I do", it usually means "I do for now". They do not like to make lifelong commitments, although they may very well be involved in lifelong relationships which they have taken one day at a time.
Sexually, the ISTP approaches intimacy as a physical act rather than an expression of love and affection.
INTP and ISTP – Compatibility, Relationships, and Friendships
They are earthy and sensual beings who enthusiastically experience sex with all five senses. They bring spontaneity, creativity, and enthusiasm into the bedroom, and enjoy new experiences.
- INFP, INTP, ISFP, & ISTP Relationship Challenges
- ISTP Weaknesses
Since aesthetic beauty has such strong appeal to them, they appreciate the "setting", i. ISTPs love to fix things, and may create problems in their personal relationships, just so that they can have the fun of fixing them. They have a tendency to hold back their own views on things. They like to listen to other people's views, but are generally non-commital about expressing their own opinions.
Nerds in Relationships: INTP, INTJ, ISTP & ISTJ Personality Types
ISTPs have a habit of evading answering questions by asking more questions. This can be frustrating at times to their mates, if they are after a direct answer. The ISTP's decision making process is entirely internal, so they don't feel much need to share their opinions with others. When they are interacting with others, they are in "information gathering" mode, so they tend to ask questions rather than share views.
The ISTP just doesn't feel the need to expose themselves fully to others. When it comes to intimate relationships, the ISTP has the further motivation of protecting themselves.
Most ISTPs are afraid of having to deal with their deeper feelings. Since their Thinking preference dominates their personality, their Feeling side is their least developed inferior function.
Consequently, ISTPs are usually quite vulnerable and perhaps weak when dealing with their feelings. Their habit of keeping part of themselves hidden may also serve the purpose of keeping a protective wall around their hearts. Although the ISTP does not usually have a well-developed Feeling side, they frequently do have intense feelings for people. They can feel overpowering love for their mates, although they are likely not to express their emotions, or to express them inadequately or inappropriately if they do venture towards expression.
May lack a support network if both do not belong to a community because of their lack of desire to socialize.
INTP and ISTP – Compatibility, Relationships, and Friendships - Personality Growth
Sensing-Intuition Joys Sensors enjoys the insightful and brilliant Intuitive and seeing things from a big picture, strategic perspective relative to theirs. Sensors are also likely fascinated by the outlandish imagination of the Intuitive; with big dreams and visions. Intuitives will appreciate the Sensors attention to detail in everyday living; Sensors bring Intuitives down to earth to common sense.
While not true for all Sensors, Sensors dress themselves and groom themselves relatively well; this is something that Intuitives will appreciate and admire.
Struggles May find it a challenge to have a common topic for discussion; Sensors enjoy talking about everyday happenings while Intuitive enjoys ideas, trends and theories.
These differences in interest may mean the couple may find little or no chemistry. Sensors are more past and present focused while Intuitives tend to be more future oriented; This means that Sensors will take references from past experiences and present facts to make a decision, while Intuitives are more likely to take into account future possibilities when doing so. Sensors may find Intuitives' lack of interest in everyday living and managing household tasks to be frustrating; they don't understand why Intuitives are always 'in their heads', pondering about the deep things of life while they are the ones taking care of the duties of the household.
Thinking-Thinking Joys Both parties enjoy the straightforward and frank communication styles; no emotional issues is brought into discussion and decision making. As such, both find it easy to communicate with each other; they won't have to try to cushion their message or filter it; but can afford to be direct without being afraid of offending the other party.
In decision-making, both parties use a logical, objective analysis to access pros and cons. This same mode of decision-making will mean that they are less likely to come into conflict.
Struggles While both are logical with one another, sometimes some romance and affection can liven up the relationship; both parties may have issues showing it. Because both use a logical and objective process in decision-making, they may have a blind spot in considering their personal values. Under stress, they may have an issue controlling their own emotions; sometimes this can lead to highly intense fights that are destructive.
Perceiving-Perceiving Joys Both parties enjoy being spontaneous to changing circumstances and keeping their options open without seeing the need to come to a decision. Both tend to be okay with going with the flow; for the most part, daily decisions like eating locations or recreational activities are decided on a whim.