[ESTJ] ESTJ and INFJ match?
This section INFJ-ESTJ relationship is about how these two personality types come together in a relationship. I am an INFJ married to an ESTJ, and it is the most stable relationship I have ever had. I would follow that statement with both of us are very mature/well. Compare INFJ and ESTJ personalities to understand how they best work together. Where are the areas of similarity and potential areas for conflict?.
Thinking and Feeling A thinker and a feeler can make for an interesting dynamic. The thinker can help sort through logical issues, but may be seen as harsh to a feeler. The feeler can help the thinker understand their emotions more, but can be seen as too emotional and flighty to a thinker. However, both of these types can make for a very healthy balance.
The INFJ lives in the emotional and feeling world. The INFJ is in touch with others emotions and knows how to respond to them to put others at ease.
The ESTJ wants the world to be logical and orderly. The ISTJ wants conclusive plans of action and concrete understand of the way things works. This universal acceptance of logic is used to help the ESTJ form their worldview.
Their priorities generally put God first, family second, and friends third. They put forth a tremendous amount of effort to meet their obligations and duties, according to their priorities.
They are dedicated and committed to their relationships, which they consider to be lifelong and unalterable.
They like to be in charge, and may be very controlling of their mates and children. They have high esteem for traditions and institutions, and expect that their mates and children will support these as well. They have little patience and need for dealing with people who see things very differently from the ESTJ.
They seek stability and security in their lives, and once they have made a commitment, it is lifelong and unalterable. They bring with them into the relationship a strong and dependable nature, which is oriented in traditions and security.
They are highly energetic people, who never seem to lose their energy when performing duties and fulfilling obligations. ESTJs usually feel very strongly that they are right and that if everyone else would listen carefully to what the ESTJ has to say, then they would understand the way things really are, and the world would be a better place.
Such a strong, confident self-image is an asset in many ways, but can also be a detriment in close interpersonal relationships, if the ESTJ's mate does not feel valued for their contributions as an individual. This is a potential pitfall for ESTJs, who should try to be aware of the fact that other people have things to offer, even if they do not exactly follow the ESTJ's way of thinking.
If it's not possible to do this on a larger scale, the ESTJ should perhaps focus on this area with respect to their partner's contributions.
Sexually, the ESTJ is likely to be robust, enthusiastic, and athletic. They will tend to be traditional, and to expect sexual encounters on a relatively scheduled basis. They're likely to approach intimacy as a physical experience of closeness, rather than as an opportunity to express and receive expressions of love and affection.
The ESTJ will probably have to work on remembering to express their feelings verbally, but their mate's appreciation will make it well worth it for those who do.
They enjoy shielding and protecting their families, and are usually quite good at it. Their partners will appreciate and enjoy the benefits of the ESTJ's efforts in this respect, but they may also resent the more controlling aspects of the ESTJ's personality, which goes along with their strong desire to shield their loved-ones.
They may feel Introverts are boring, or just disinterested in talking to them.
Introverts may find that Extroverts are too loud and talk too much without listening to them. An Introvert may feel neglected and unheard by Extroverts because they will only share if asked - and Extroverts usually don't ask.
INFJ and ESTJ – Compatibility, Relationships, and Friendships
On the weekends, Extroverts enjoy heading out for social activities or other high stimulation activities to relax while Introverts prefer staying home or at the most have some quiet activity with close friends.
This difference in preference will sometimes lead to dissatisfaction.
Sensing-Intuition Joys Sensors enjoys the insightful and brilliant Intuitive and seeing things from a big picture, strategic perspective relative to theirs.
Sensors are also likely fascinated by the outlandish imagination of the Intuitive; with big dreams and visions.
Intuitives will appreciate the Sensors attention to detail in everyday living; Sensors bring Intuitives down to earth to common sense. While not true for all Sensors, Sensors dress themselves and groom themselves relatively well; this is something that Intuitives will appreciate and admire. Struggles May find it a challenge to have a common topic for discussion; Sensors enjoy talking about everyday happenings while Intuitive enjoys ideas, trends and theories. These differences in interest may mean the couple may find little or no chemistry.
Sensors are more past and present focused while Intuitives tend to be more future oriented; This means that Sensors will take references from past experiences and present facts to make a decision, while Intuitives are more likely to take into account future possibilities when doing so.
Sensors may find Intuitives' lack of interest in everyday living and managing household tasks to be frustrating; they don't understand why Intuitives are always 'in their heads', pondering about the deep things of life while they are the ones taking care of the duties of the household.