If the separated man isn't sure about reconnecting with his partner and a new relationship would make that option far less likely, he may not want to lose those . It is possible to make getting over your ex a pain-free process . Rather than rushing into a new relationship, take time to focus on your relationship Just because a partner has ended a relationship does not mean you are. When you're dating as an adult, it's pretty much a given that but if your partner still keeps photos of their ex around, they're not over them.
I asked him why he still had pictures together?
He said he never got around to deleting them. So, a few weeks later I needed my pictures off his laptop and I noticed the folder with their pictures in it. He now has it as a compressed folder.
Theres also a folder with their last holiday, too, which I saw this morning. He said no but to me he was not too convincing. He did say, the other day, that he was sorry he got married. But why put the pictures in a compressed folder? He said no that he wouldnt trust her.
Moving on when you’re still in love with your ex
But loving me never came into it. Sorry I went on and I hope I get a reply but this is eating me up inside. Schwartz responds to questions about psychotherapy and mental health problems, from the perspective of his training in clinical psychology. Schwartz intends his responses to provide general educational information to the readership of this website; answers should not be understood to be specific advice intended for any particular individual s. Questions submitted to this column are not guaranteed to receive responses.
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Always consult with your psychotherapist, physician, or psychiatrist first before changing any aspect of your treatment regimen.
Do not stop your medication or change the dose of your medication without first consulting with your physician. It is hard to understand why your boyfriend wants to keep pictures of him and his ex wife but you could always ask him. People you can trust and who you know will listen to you.
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Getting the wider perspective One thing that can be helpful when struggling with unresolved feelings following the end of a relationship is thinking back and consider the bad sides as well as the good. But no relationship is perfect. Recognising this can be an important part of understanding why things ended. It can also mean avoiding similar situations in the future.
Obviously we only have so much control over what happens in relationships, but if there were any behaviours that contributed towards things ending this time, being aware of these can be very useful.
Looking after yourself Of course, this is all easier said than done. You may want to think about coping strategies. What helps you to feel better in the moment? Some people want to be by themselves, some like to give themselves something to do to stay busy. Sometimes the act of talking things over is enough to relieve some of the pain. And sometimes, re-negotiating boundaries in terms of your social network may be necessary.
Sometimes, seeing different people for a little while can be necessary. What if I need more support?